narcissistic abuse

Mismatched memories: Speak your Truth

Mismatched memories   Have you ever listened to two people tell the story of a shared experience? It’s amazing what differences can show up when two different sets of memories are at play. One person sees a red car run into a blue one at the intersection, while the person next to them swears it…

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You Are Good Enough: An Open Letter

I’ve been seeing a new meme show up on my social media quite often lately. It’s usually very simple text on a plain background. The text usually states something like “I don’t know who needs to hear this, but…” followed by some pearl of wisdom. Some of those pearls are rather profound; others less so.…

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The White Knight Effect

Raise your hand if you are 1000 times more comfortable speaking up in defense of someone else than defending yourself. It feels so much better to help someone else weather a storm of emotional abuse than to take care of yourself, right? You get to feel like a Jedi Knight! You are standing up for…

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It Didn’t Start With You: Tracing the Roots of Narcissistic Abuse

It didn’t start with you   Narcissistic abuse never starts with the victim, no matter what the narcissist says.   Did you know that?   Even if they said, “You were just such a difficult child, I never knew how to deal with you.”   It didn’t start with you.   Even if they told…

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