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You Are Good Enough: An Open Letter
I’ve been seeing a new meme show up on my social media quite often lately. It’s usually very simple text on a plain background. The text usually states something like “I don’t know who needs to hear this, but…” followed by some pearl of wisdom. Some of those pearls are rather profound; others less so.…
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Anger is not your enemy
When I decided to focus this week’s article about how anger is not your enemy, I poked around for some suitable quotes to illustrate my position. Unsurprisingly, many of the quotes that came up condemned or advised against anger. There are many variations on the theme that anger is harmful, negative, and to be avoided…
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When Therapy Sucks, part 2: Emotional Hangover
Awhile back, I wrote an article about why it’s important to stick it out even when therapy sucks. Today, I want to talk a little more about what can make therapy so hard sometimes. Have you ever had a session that felt really special – like, a deep, breakthrough, oh-my-God-it-all-makes-sense-now, felt like something really shifted…
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4 Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We often struggle with the concept because we don’t really understand what boundaries are and why we need them. For some, trying to say no or stand up for yourself in the past may have led to anger, rejection, guilt-tripping, or shaming behaviors. Others may…
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Healthy Boundaries: Why They Matter and How They Help
What are boundaries and why do I need them? Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We get a lot of mixed messages about whether they help or hurt, how they should look, and whether they make any difference in our relationships. In some families and some relationships, “you complete me” is…
Read MoreSaying No is Not Mean
You have a loving family, a great friend group, and overall a pretty good life. You love being a good friend and feeling loved and appreciated by the people around you. Everyone knows you as the person to go to for good advice, a last minute ride to the train, or an ear to listen…
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