fear of change

When You’re Stuck: Writing a new story for a better life

Your story is an introduction   It happens all the time. A new client sits down for the first session and pours out all the stories no one ever believed, hoping desperately that this time, they’ll be heard. This time, they hope, someone will believe me. This time, I will be validated. And when they…

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Asking Scary Questions: Is My Parent a Narcissist?

 How do I know if my parent is really a narcissist, or if I’m just reading too much into it? What if I’m exaggerating or overreacting?   Dear brave soul, how courageous you are to ask these questions! The pendulum swing from eye-opening amazement that there may be a name for your experiences to cringing…

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Healthy Boundaries: Why They Matter and How They Help

What are boundaries and why do I need them? Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We get a lot of mixed messages about whether they help or hurt, how they should look, and whether they make any difference in our relationships. In some families and some relationships, “you complete me” is…

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Honor the Resistance

Stuck in a rut I recently had a session with a client who was feeling stuck between the parts of her that want to live boldly and confidently and the parts of her that want to stay in the background and not take chances. For this client, the fearful parts seem to be holding her…

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