boundaries

Entering the Holidays with Self-Compassion

Halloween has ended, and the holiday season is upon us. We are entering the time of turkey dinners, festive lights, hot chocolate, and family guilt trips – are you ready?   For adults from narcissistic or emotionally immature families, the holidays can be a difficult time of year. November is filled with talk of gratitude,…

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4 Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We often struggle with the concept because we don’t really understand what boundaries are and why we need them. For some, trying to say no or stand up for yourself in the past may have led to anger, rejection, guilt-tripping, or shaming behaviors. Others may…

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Asking Scary Questions: Is My Parent a Narcissist?

 How do I know if my parent is really a narcissist, or if I’m just reading too much into it? What if I’m exaggerating or overreacting?   Dear brave soul, how courageous you are to ask these questions! The pendulum swing from eye-opening amazement that there may be a name for your experiences to cringing…

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Going No-Contact: Why It Has to be Your Choice

The Question   “Do you think I should go no-contact with my narcissistic mom?”   “Do I have to see my emotionally abusive dad at the holidays?”   “I don’t want to ever see my parents again, but I feel like cutting them off would be wrong. What do I do?”   Hearing these questions…

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Healthy Boundaries: Why They Matter and How They Help

What are boundaries and why do I need them? Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We get a lot of mixed messages about whether they help or hurt, how they should look, and whether they make any difference in our relationships. In some families and some relationships, “you complete me” is…

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A Time for You

Tis the season for many things: apple pies, warm sweaters, cinnamon candles, eating too much, and spending time with loved ones. Thanksgiving is one of our most family-centric holidays, kicking off a season of celebrations, parties, and dinners. We travel more around Thanksgiving than any other time of the year and it’s hard to imagine…

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