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Honor the Resistance

Stuck in a rut I recently had a session with a client who was feeling stuck between the parts of her that want to live boldly and confidently and the parts of her that want to stay in the background and not take chances. For this client, the fearful parts seem to be holding her…

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Walk On

It is just about the time of year when those New Year’s Resolutions start to falter, and ambition for change begins to fade a bit. When we come face to face with the realization that the holidays are officially over and we’re stuck with plain old winter. Those fresh new starts we planned are harder…

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Walking on the Moon

It’s a new year. The holidays have ended and most of us are back to work and making our way back to our daily routines. We are surrounded by good intentions, goals, resolutions, and expectations for the new year. Daily life is at once familiar and new. For me, this new year is different. The…

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A Season of Self-Care

We have officially entered the eye of the storm – that short period of time between Thanksgiving and Christmas where we try to recover from the aftermath of one holiday while throwing ourselves into preparations for the next. If your Thanksgiving was a happy holiday, this time may feel busy and bustling, but otherwise ok.…

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Giving Thanks

Between October 31 and November 1, the world changes. For some, November 1 is the official start date of the Christmas and holiday season. They turn on their Christmas music, bring out the decorations, and start perusing sale ads in preparation for holiday gift-giving. Others prefer to wait until after Thanksgiving, and focus on the…

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A Time for You

Tis the season for many things: apple pies, warm sweaters, cinnamon candles, eating too much, and spending time with loved ones. Thanksgiving is one of our most family-centric holidays, kicking off a season of celebrations, parties, and dinners. We travel more around Thanksgiving than any other time of the year and it’s hard to imagine…

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A Time to Mourn (A Little More)

Last week, I wrote about grief, loss, and mourning to honor hopes that go unfulfilled. Today, I will return to the conversation to speak more deeply to the complicated, ambiguous losses of past and future relationships. In the therapy world, we sometimes talk about something called “complicated grief,”. Or grief that exceeds the usual length,…

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A Time to Mourn

Halloween is over. We’ve taken off our costumes, put away our spiderwebs, and divvied up our candy (what’s left of it anyway). It’s officially autumn, and the leaves in my neighborhood are finally starting to turn and drift to the earth. It is a time of transition, moving us from the heat and humidity of…

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I’m Not the Worst: Imposter Syndrome Undone

So you identify with the description of Impostor Syndrome in the previous blog entry, and you really want to feel like you deserve your place in the world. How do you get past feeling like a fake, “just lucky,” or excessively self-critical? Read on for three tips to learning to believe in yourself! 1. Get…

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I’m the Worst: Impostor Syndrome and Internalized Gaslighting

A few weeks ago, I wrote a two-part miniseries about gaslighting. Today, I am going to follow up with a word about internalized gaslighting and its BFF: Impostor Syndrome. Impostor syndrome is a common problem for high achievers who have a hard time accepting themselves as high achievers. Despite evidence to the contrary, they tend…

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