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The Words We Use: How Self-Talk Impacts Self-Concept

Our words, our self-talk   This week I find myself thinking a lot about words. Specifically, the words we use to name ourselves: aka, self-talk. Have you ever been asked that impossible question, “describe yourself using just one word?” I always hated that one, because no one word can sum up an entire person. But…

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4 Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We often struggle with the concept because we don’t really understand what boundaries are and why we need them. For some, trying to say no or stand up for yourself in the past may have led to anger, rejection, guilt-tripping, or shaming behaviors. Others may…

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When You’re Stuck: Writing a new story for a better life

Your story is an introduction   It happens all the time. A new client sits down for the first session and pours out all the stories no one ever believed, hoping desperately that this time, they’ll be heard. This time, they hope, someone will believe me. This time, I will be validated. And when they…

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There’s a Name for That: A Glossary of Toxic Relationship Terms

Toxic relationships can be hard to define   Being in a toxic relationship but unable to pinpoint what is unhealthy about it can be crazy-making. When you know something is wrong but you can’t put your finger on it, you may second-guess yourself. Second-guessing can keep you in unhealthy relationships longer, leading to more pain…

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When Father’s Day is Bittersweet

Today is a day that we honor and celebrate fathers.   Fathers are inarguably some of the most influential people in our lives – whether they are in our lives or not. Their presence or lack of presence can have an equally significant impact on us. In the ideal, the role of father carries the…

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Asking Scary Questions: Is My Parent a Narcissist?

 How do I know if my parent is really a narcissist, or if I’m just reading too much into it? What if I’m exaggerating or overreacting?   Dear brave soul, how courageous you are to ask these questions! The pendulum swing from eye-opening amazement that there may be a name for your experiences to cringing…

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Going No-Contact: Why It Has to be Your Choice

The Question   “Do you think I should go no-contact with my narcissistic mom?”   “Do I have to see my emotionally abusive dad at the holidays?”   “I don’t want to ever see my parents again, but I feel like cutting them off would be wrong. What do I do?”   Hearing these questions…

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Self-Care: Not Just Netflix and Flop

  May is Mental Health Awareness month! This month, we focus special attention on raising awareness and reducing stigma around mental health. That includes promoting self-care that creates healthy minds and hearts. But what is self-care, really?   Raise your hand if you’ve ever flopped down in front of the TV, binged on Netflix for…

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Healthy Boundaries: Why They Matter and How They Help

What are boundaries and why do I need them? Boundaries is a scary word for a lot of people. We get a lot of mixed messages about whether they help or hurt, how they should look, and whether they make any difference in our relationships. In some families and some relationships, “you complete me” is…

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(Un)Tangled: 5 Traits of Adult Children of Narcissists

In a recent blog post, we explored how Disney’s Tangled portrays a narcissistic parent, Mother Gothel. In this post, we will take a closer look at this relationship from another angle: 5 common traits of adult children of narcissists – AKA, Rapunzel. For some of you this will probably feel very familiar, and maybe not in a pleasant…

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